Whose Rules?
05 Apr 2011 2 Comments
This weekend, HBO was playing Sex & the City 2. I wasn’t doing anything and since I’m a fan, I watched. In this movie, Stanford and Anthony get married. Anthony states before the wedding that he is allowed to cheat and Stanford got the wedding he wanted. Of course, this statement is met with blank stares and judgement. You’re getting married, why would you cheat on your spouse? Carrie said something really interesting.
“Every couple has the right to make their own rules.”
Do they? I think it’s easy to say but hard to do. Especially, when you have family and friends around you that will make judgements on your choices. No matter how nonchalant we try to be, the opinions of those we love affect us. We care. Fast forward to last night, I was watching the HBO Documentary “His Way” about legendary Hollywood producer Jerry Weintraub. Jerry Weintraub is married to Jane Morgan and also has a life partner in Susie Ekins. In the documentary, Ms. Morgan stated that she knew not everyone would understand why she and Jerry chose to live this way. This is a threesome who has decided to make their own rules. It probably helps that they live in California and are celebrities.
Do you think that every couple has the right to make their own rules? To ignore the basics tenet of marriage which is fidelity. Is it still cheating when your spouse gives your permission?
Apr 05, 2011 @ 19:09:29
This is a really interesting topic. If everybody agrees that a certain course of action is allowable, then technically it is not cheating. I don’t understand why anybody would get married so that they could live like they were dating, but I guess it takes all kinds.
Apr 06, 2011 @ 00:53:04
If a couple has chosen to make their own rules on how their marriage will work that is them. I may not like the rule and disagree on how they run their marriage, but I’m not going to judge them on it. If it makes them happy and their marriage works, I’m good.